If you are having summer visitation with your child or are supposed to be and the other parents is being unreasonable, you likely should consult with a child custody attorney in Las Vegas in order to determine what your rights are. Sometimes a simple letter written by an attorney can help the matter to resolution and sometimes a motion filed with the family court is necessary. Either way, you may be surprised at how cost effective legal representation can be when you hire and experienced divorce lawyer in Las Vegas.
Paying
attention to how extremely difficult it is to go through a Child
custody case in Nevada, your Child custody lawyer will
negotiate, mediate, and litigate as necessary.
Thursday, June 20, 2013
Sunday, March 3, 2013
Modern Relationships in Las Vegas -- Ten things to consider about being single
I have represented
divorce and family law clients for nine years in Las Vegas and I pay attention
to the trends in society, including the technological changes and the evolving
views on relationships. As part of my practice, I not only look at the law,
but I do my best to present my clients with bigger picture concepts to help
them through the horrible experiences that brought them to me. I try to
have them see things from their significant other's points of view and the
point of view of a judge.
We live in a day and age
of constant stimulation. We see people do amazing things on TV, in movies
(I include some movies below that you may want to watch), on Facebook, and
Youtube. We then examine our own dull lives and many of us determine that
our significant other is a weight around our neck. A ball-and-chain.
A restraint on freedom. We realize that if we didn't have to share
our time, money, and energy with this other person, whom we may still love (but
not be in love with any longer) we could be doing those exciting things and
meeting new and exciting people.
We then throw away the
stifling comfort of a committed relationship in favor of the risk and potential
rewards of adventure. Of course, what many of us do not realize until it
is too late is the downside of the risk of leaving someone to whom we were committed. It is important to remember various truths about our so-called
modern, civilized society as we break up with those who love us and seek out
the temptations we have deprived ourselves of while in the committed
relationship.
Do not forget or fail to
consider the following as you enter the world of single-hood after years of
being in a committed relationship:
1.
AIDS and other life threatening or terminal sexually transmitted diseases still
exist and are far more common in single people with multiple sexual
partners. STDs (or STIs) are virtually nonexistent in committed
one-partner relationships. Many single women unintentionally spread disease with unprotected sex. Some people intentionally spread disease. There are some criminal statutes for spreading STDs, but if a person is dying of AIDs anyway, what can criminal justice really do?
2.
It is estimated that 1 in 20 people in the world is sociopathic (some think
that it is more than that, but still, if it is 1 out of 20, that means you
already know several sociopaths). Brain chemistry, drugs, or a birth
defect in which the amygdala of the brain is smaller than normal can cause
this. Sociopaths can act like they care about people, but they do this
only to get what they want. Sociopaths can be good for society (lack of
empathy can make sociopaths good at sales, surgery, politics, and war), but can be
very hard to deal with, and a small minority of sociopaths are criminals, a smaller minority
consists of psychopaths who murder or rape for pleasure. Sociopaths can
be charmers who destroy what they charm. An excellent movie about a
sociopath, depicted by Daniel Day-Lewis, who did good for society but was still horrible to those close to him
is “There Will be Blood.” Other single but mentally disturbed
individuals can ruin your life too. Take
for instance Audrey Tautou’s character in “He Loves Me, He Loves me Not”.
3.
Two income homes with shared living expenses means more money saved than living
singly (unless your domestic partner is using you and spending far too
much). Marriage gives tax breaks that single people cannot get.
Consider the financial impact logically as part of your resolve to break up. The financial and emotional impact of divorce
is brought home in the movie “The
War of the Roses”.
4.
The grass is greener where you water it. Don’t envy your neighbor’s lawn, water
your own. Consider that the investment in yourself and your relationship
may be better for you than fleeing it for new territory. Meryl Streep’s character had to make a huge
decision that meant sacrifice either way in “The Bridges of Madison County”. The bridge could be a symbol for her choice, stay home on one side, or cross over to a new world.
5.
Singlehood can mean rejection (both you rejecting others and them rejecting
you), heartache, loneliness, and crazy exes. You should always background
check anyone you intend to get serious with. You may find out that they
have a history of drug abuse, sexual violence, or crazy exes themselves that can
hurt you and/or your children. The wife
and mother to the character portrayed by Viggo Mortensen had no clue her gentle
husband was a former murdering gangster in “A History of Violence”.
6.
If you do have children and want to enter single life, you still have a life
commitment to them and some sort of connection with the other parent. You may have court battles for child support
even after the children are adults.
Worse yet, you may be left totally on your own to raise the child, such as
what happened to Will Smith’s character in “The Pursuit of Happyness”.
7.
New people in your life can set you up in such a way that you face criminal
responsibility. Be wary. Jim
Carrey’s character did this to his lover in “I Love you Phillip Morris”.
8.
New is not necessarily better. Committed love can be much better for your
long-term happiness, than the thrill of a new love (crush), which lasts for a short
while and leaves you worse off. Gael
García Bernal’s character had to realize that his wife and child were more
important than the cute young woman in “Mammoth”.
9.
Sometimes being single is much better than remaining married--and feeling
trapped, take for instance Jennifer Lopez’s character in “Enough”. Some people have to go through a few
long-term relationships before they find the one that will be there for the
rest of their lives, sometimes even with the same person. In my practice, I have seen people in their
second marriage to the same person. A
movie depicting this would be “The
Marrying Man”. Former family court Judge Judy Scheindlin divorced and remarried her husband. However, some never do find another that will love them as
much as the one they threw away. When you are old, will you live in despair and loneliness with all the regrets, or will you have friends and lovers keeping you in the moment instead of in the past?
10.
There are a lot of movies that can encourage adventurous risk-taking which
should be considered in light of all of the above. Such movies may
include, “Titanic: in which Rose is convinced to pursue a romantic, adventurous life instead of a life with a rich husband”, “The Bridges of Madison County: about a wife having to choose between domesticity and adventure”,
pretty much every movie with Michelle Williams in it (Blue Valentine: about a dwindling marriage, Take this Waltz: about a wife finding someone new, Mammoth: about a husband being seduced, Incendiary: about an adulterous wife who loses everything, including her mind, Broke Back Mountain: about a loyal wife with a disloyal gay husband, and even My Week With Marilyn: about a wife who strays) “Kramer
vs. Kramer: about a mother and father fighting over a child”, “The War of the
Roses: about a husband and wife fighting over everything through a divorce”, “Indecent Proposal: about a rich guy buying another man's wife”,
"Who's Afraid Of Virginia
Woolf?: about a tumultuous marriage", “Revolutionary
Road: about an evolving marriage”, “Two for the Road: about a dwindling marriage” and "Rebound: about finding someone new after a divorce".
By Anthony M. Wright, JD
March 4, 2013
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Anthony is a Las Vegas divorce attorney, licensed in Nevada since 2005. When considering marriage and divorce, it is advisable to meet with a Las Vegas family law attorney to more
fully appreciate all your options. Why are Las Vegas family lawyers so good at giving advice? Because, Las Vegas is perhaps the marriage and divorce capitol of the entire world. It is an adult playground where relationships are born and die. Nevada has the easiest laws to get married and to get divorced, so clients flock here and the family law attorneys get plenty of experience. An experienced divorce lawyer has probably heard and seen it all many times. The relationship problems depicted in the movies mentioned in the article above are small compared to the real relationship problems most divorce lawyers are asked to handle in family court.
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